Today was an interesting day, with two very different social events—and a good reminder of why community matters.
I grew up around social clubs, including the Elks, Eagles, and various military clubs. One thing I've learned over the years is that you meet some genuinely good people through these organizations. Small towns are a little different. In a place like Escanaba, you can get to know people pretty quickly. In a place like San Diego, with so many people, it takes a little more time. But eventually, you start building those relationships.I've been involved with a fraternity in both Michigan and California, and over time, I've developed some great friendships. Some of these people I've known for years, and it's always nice to get together.
I also attended an event at Point Loma Assembly. That's a pretty cool place. I enjoy the people there because they're genuinely interested in helping others and building a better community. They're intelligent, well-dressed, and carry themselves with a certain class. It's refreshing to be around people who care about their community and take an active role in it.
I think everyone should have multiple dimensions to their lives. I certainly do. I can work on a car like a grease monkey, hike through the woods, dress up for an evening out, enjoy a glass of wine, or have a cheap domestic beer. I'm pretty comfortable moving between different environments. And honestly, I think that's a good thing. It gives you a broader perspective and helps develop social awareness. Life is too short to limit yourself to one crowd or one way of doing things.
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The event included several ballet performances, which I thoroughly enjoyed. I've danced myself, so I have a real appreciation for the discipline, practice, and athleticism involved. You can see when dancers reach that higher level of performance. They make something incredibly difficult look effortless, which is part of what makes ballet so impressive. The San Diego Ballet put on a great show. There were also some good snacks, which certainly didn't hurt! (Pretzle buns were delicious! Chewy!)
A little later, I met up with some of my fraternity friends in Point Loma. Unfortunately, we've recently lost a few members, so we took some time to write letters to their families. Someone even brought out an old-fashioned fraternity seal. You know, the kind that goes with those old letters where you weren't supposed to break the seal? It was a nice touch and brought back some memories.
It's a meaningful tradition. We wanted the families to know that the fraternity is thinking about them and that we're here to support them. Death is part of life, but that doesn't mean people should have to go through difficult times alone. That's one of the things a good organization and a good community should provide: friendship, support, and a sense of belonging. The letter to grand children is especially valuable and that is what makes a traditional fraternity like this one important.
And that's really the bigger point.
If you've never been involved in a social club, fraternity/serority, service organization, or community group, I encourage you to give one a try. You might be surprised by the friendships you develop and the experiences you have.
We live in a complicated world, and I think we could all use a little more community. We need places where people can come together, get to know one another, share experiences, and do something positive for society. Not everything has to be about work, politics, or whatever crisis happens to be dominating the news that day.
Sometimes it's just about enjoying good company, appreciating a little ballet, sharing a beer, and helping a friend when life gets difficult.
That's not a bad way to spend a day.
I've included this 2026 article below that you might find interesting,
Gen Z Is Just as Confident in Its Social Skills as Older Generations, Despite Criticism
47% of Gen Z respondents say they are very confident in their in-person social skills.
62% of Americans believe young people struggle with active listening.
54% identify difficulty maintaining focus during conversations as a weakness.
More than half believe AI is negatively affecting face-to-face communication.
91% support colleges helping students develop social skills through clubs, discussions, and internships.
Franco, I. (2026, September 21). Gen Z is just as confident in their social skills as older generations: CNBC survey. CNBC. https://www.cnbc.com/make-it/2026/09/21/gen-z-social-skills-confidence-cnbc-survey.html





